The Book of Forgiving

The Book of Forgiving

The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World

Book - 2014
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Publisher: San Francisco : HarperOne, 2014
ISBN: 9780062203564
Characteristics: 229 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
Additional Contributors: Abrams, Douglas Carlton


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Jul 22, 2018

This is a really powerful book. If anyone can lead by example in the area of forgiveness, it is Desmond Tutu. What an incredible, beautiful soul. Lots of really practical info in this book on how to find forgiveness - for yourself and for others.

Apr 24, 2018

Nobel Laureate Desmond Tutu joins his daughter Mpho Tutu, who shares a traumatic experience, in outlining a four-step path to forgiveness. Telling your story is the first step, to a kind listener, written down secretly or even shared publicly, if not to the person you are trying to forgive. Tips for listeners are provided, including not to question the facts, one of the features of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission. The second step is naming the hurt, which can also be healing. In the third step of actually granting forgiveness, we’re encouraged to see the other person as a flawed human just as we are. The final step is renewing or releasing the relationship. Many examples are provided where an amazing new story was created from the renewal of the relationship, but even if renewal is not possible or advisable, creating a new story can transform a victim into a hero. Guidance is also provided on how to ask for forgiveness of another, and how to forgive ourselves. Meditations, journal exercises, and poems are offered to deepen the process. We are encouraged to keep practicing until we learn to forgive automatically. The potential for peace when forgiveness is exercised at the national level or international level is also touched on.

Nov 05, 2017

It's the best book on grief that I've ever come across. Each chapter contains helpful invitations to reflect upon, guided meditations to help manage the stress of the topic and journal activities. I found myself wanting to highlight passages of the book, so I ended up buying a copy of the book for my own bookshelf.

Oct 18, 2015

This is worth reading. I found it the tools useful and relevant, even for smaller problems. I bought it for myself.

LaughingOne Sep 07, 2014

Quite interesting. Good tools and much to think about.

Jul 10, 2014

The book was well laid out and useful.


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